Porn:

Porn feels good, because God gave us a powerful sex drive.

"When somebody engages with pornography, there’s a 200 percent spike of dopamine to the reward centre of the brain – a region called the nucleus accumbens. That’s the same level of reward that you get from a morphine hit.

"When kids get this dopamine hit to the brain, their frontal lobe has not fully developed to be able to process that. That’s the part of your brain that is forward thinking – thinks about consequences, thinks about the future – and that doesn’t develop in boys until their early 20s. And so, when a 10-year-old is exposed to porn and gets that dopamine hit to the reward centre of the brain, he is not fully able to process it. That can potentially lead to a decade of addiction without the ability to really protect himself."

Pornography addiction is a thing.
Pornography messes up your real sex life.

Every product is designed for a specific use. There are commercial models and consumer models. If you don't follow the instructions, you'll ruin the product.

God designed us and knows what's good for us. He doesn't give us rules to keep us from having fun. He knows what we can handle. He knows our weaknesses. If I do whatever I want instead of following God, I'll wear out.

We are designed for monogamous relationships. Viewing one porn after another is the equivalent to your brain of having multiple sexual partners, and we can't handle it.

⁷ What then shall we say? That the law is sin? By no means! Yet if it had not been for the law, I would not have known sin. For I would not have known what it is to covet if the law had not said, "You shall not covet."⁸ But sin, seizing an opportunity through the commandment, produced in me all kinds of covetousness. For apart from the law, sin lies dead.⁹ I was once alive apart from the law, but when the commandment came, sin came alive and I died.¹⁰ The very commandment that promised life proved to be death to me.¹¹ For sin, seizing an opportunity through the commandment, deceived me and through it killed me.¹² So the law is holy, and the commandment is holy and righteous and good.

¹³ Did that which is good, then, bring death to me? By no means! It was sin, producing death in me through what is good, in order that sin might be shown to be sin, and through the commandment might become sinful beyond measure.¹⁴ For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am of the flesh, sold under sin.¹⁵ For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.¹⁶ Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good.¹⁷ So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me.¹⁸ For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out.¹⁹ For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing.²⁰ Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me.

²¹ So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand.²² For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being,²³ but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members.²⁴ Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?²⁵ Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.

...from https://lindakayklein.com/what-is-purity-culture/#

Porn = performance.
Consent is often missing in porn.
Female pleasure is misrepresented in porn.
Male dominance is common in porn.

"Today there is so much pressure for girls. Martin Daubney, who appears in our film, is the former editor of Loaded magazine in the UK and he now speaks in schools about pornography. He says that one of the big questions that guys in the classrooms are concerned about is What is legal? The biggest question for girls, on the other hand, is Do I have to have porn star sex in order to be popular?"

Please your partner.
Respect your partner.

Search for the title on a site like https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ or http://www.kids-in-mind.com/

Or google the title followed by "objectionable", i.e., "star wars solo objectionable".

"· before the onset of puberty
"· when a child has independent access to devices or the internet
"· if they spend unsupervised time with peers or older teens
"· when they’re expressing curiosities about sexual health topics"

(from https://www.huffpost.com/entry/kids-viewing-porn-conversation_n_62fd4efae4b0a85a819842f1 )

I'd recommend manually changing your router's DNS.

If you are using CleanBrowsing or Cloudflare WARP, you don't need to set up filters in Chrome or Edge.

The above instructions only protect the device.
To protect all devices that connect to your router:

Filtering is not enabled by default.
To enable in Windows...

The above instructions protect your computer.
To protect all devices that connect to your router...
...(i.e. over WI-FI or ethernet cable)...
...Manually change your router's DNS.

Yes.
They are not bullet-proof.
But they make it harder to find porn.

Setting up filtering on your router is more secure than just filtering a device.

NetNanny, Qustodio and K9 did not work on my computer.

How Teens Bypass Parental Controls like OpenDNS
How your kids are beating your parental controls and is there anything you can do?
Getting Around Your Internet Filter
Net Nanny... reinstall and change password

I don't know.

I don't know.

Remember, it's about direction, not perfection.

I don't often look at pornography, but I'm often tempted to.
So is it ok to want to look at pornography even if I don't?

Is it possible to change your desires?
Can you change your desires by changing your behavior?
Is this sexual repression?

I don't have an accountability partner.
I'd probably never look at pornography again if I did.
But that seems like cheating to me.

Jesus criticized the Jewish religious leaders for only keeping the letter of the law and prioritizing their laws over God's.

1. Boredom (Sin as My Joy)
...2. Loneliness (Sin as My Friend)
...3. Stress (Sin as My Comforter)
...4. Frustration (Sin as My Peace)
...5. Fatigue (Sin as My Source of Life)
...6. Hurt (Sin as My Refuge)
...7. Betrayal (Sin as My Revenge)
...8. Bitterness (Sin as My Justice)
...9. Opportunity (Sin as My Pleasure)
...10. Rejection (Sin as My Comfort)
...11. Failure (Sin as My Success)
...12. Success (Sin as My Reward)
...13. Entitlement (Sin as My Deserved)

The Pharisees set up "hedge laws" in order to keep from breaking Old Testament laws.
For example, tithing herbs from their gardens.

So, I'm like the Pharisees.
I've learned to nip it in the bud.
Once you've rationalized one behavior, it's easier to progress to worse behavior.

Avoiding franchises that I've had trouble with in the past.
(i.e. Jurrasic Park, Transformers, Star Wars, Marvel, DC)

Avoiding websites that I've had trouble with in the past.
(i.e. iTunes Movie Trailers, Amazon Kindle Best Sellers, Comixology)

Unsubscribing from channels that I've had trouble with in the past.
(i.e., YouTube MovieClips)

If most of the content on the channel or website is objectionable, avoid it.
If you have to dig through the garbage to find the good stuff, you're in a landfill.

Respecting people and thinking about how they're feeling.
Thinking about people instead of bodies / body parts.

Looking away from sexually-suggestive images.
Not avoiding the opposite sex.
Not checking out a girl's body.

Avoiding eye traps (cleavage, knees, shoulders, tight clothing).
Instead look at faces.

Not hiding my personal challenges with pornography.

When watching a movie trailer or clip, and there's something objectionable, stop watching.

When watching a movie, and there's something objectionable, skipping ahead.

I personally exhibit the folowing progression from bad to worse behaviors:

Avoid questionable behaviors as a hedge against sinful behaviors.